Pondering conversations with a three-year-old…

Have you conversed with a three-year-old lately?

This happened between me and my grandson this week. We were in the car – me driving and him in the car seat in the back…

“Gigi, did you see that big truck?”  “Yes, I saw it? Did you know…”  “Gigi, are we going to your old house?”  “No. You know Gigi doesn’t live…”  “Gigi, is this the way to your new house?”  “Yes, baby…”

As you can see, B-man has a typical 3-year-old attention span that darts from point A to point B quicker than Gigi can answer.

We’re headed down the road to my house. Suddenly, in a loud voice, he darts again to a new topic…

“Gigi! Did you see that police officer?”

For a moment, I wasn’t sure he’d said what I thought I heard. Before I could respond, he said it again, louder, pointing out the window…


“Gigi! There’s a police officer!!” {loud voice}

It was obvious this topic was far more exciting than anything we’d discussed earlier. I said, “Yes, that police officer lives on Gigi’s street.”  “Why?”  “Because that’s where he lives with his family.”

He stayed on that topic until we pulled into the driveway. After I got him out of the car and before he could run inside, I grabbed his hand and led him over into the front yard.

I said, “Look way down the street. Can you see the police officer’s car?”  “Yes!”  “See, the police officer lives right down there in that house.”  This seemed to impress him. When mommy came to pick him up, he had to tell her all about it.

This conversation would not leave me alone.

If you’re a parent, grandparent or have children in your life, you know those moments when you re-live a conversation over and over because it has impacted you in some way.

I shed a few tears and talked to God about it. If you don’t know the story, our B-man is mixed-race. His skin is not the color of ours, though you’d never know it by the way we act. Yeah, he is adopted, but we don’t talk about it.

God placed this amazing little boy in our family and we intend to do everything we can to see that he grows up with all the love, protection, training and opportunity any of us can make possible for him.

Conversations with our children are important to their future. We're raising warriors and world-changers. Take the time. And pray.We know B-man’s way will be different than ours.

He will face stuff we do not. He will encounter those who treat him according to the color of his skin. This realization has changed us. It has changed me. This was my prayer that evening.

Father, would you please keep that amazement, wonder and respect in B-man’s heart for police officers and others in authority? And make those authority figures who touch his life worthy of the honor. Let nothing touch his life that would steal that away.

May the things he is taught be cemented deeply in him. And may it begin with his attitude toward you, his heavenly Father. Make him a world-changer. Make him a warrior, but always a warrior who fights for and stands for Your truth in this world.

Let this be our prayer today over the children in our lives. We pray this over every child, teen and college student in our lives – regardless of the color of their skin, culture or family dynamic.

God, You’re building world-changers and warriors of Truth. Let that be cemented in their hearts. May we be worthy of reinforcing that in them today.

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8 thoughts on “Pondering conversations with a three-year-old…

  1. So true! I’m the mama of an almost-threenager and our police-officer friend has often said, “Please don’t threaten your children with calling the police when they’re bad – we want them to trust us, not fear us.” It helps that Nana also works at the police department, but still – we can unthinkingly instill fear in our kids instead of trust.

    • Ellen, thanks for your comment. I’ve been on vacation, thus the delay in responding. As a grandmother, I surely want to instill positive attitudes towards law enforcement in the mind of my grandson. God help us all!

  2. My heart cries out for those who are misunderstood and judged based on the color of their skin. I work with Native Americans, and per capita, they are killed more often than any other nationality–and their stories never make it to the big time news stations. That’s a crime.

  3. Innocence of a child can bring me to tears too! We want so much for them to not be faced with any of the ugliness in the world we live in. All we can do is give them to God, teach them His ways, and pray.pray.pray!

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