How to have *self-control* {in an out-of-control world}…

For most of us, self-control is hard work.

Let’s start by talking about food. We may know we need to eat better. Our doctor may even insist we eat better, but change is hard.

We want what we want. Those cravings for the tastes we enjoy overtake the knowledge of what we know is better for our bodies.

*Self-control* is difficult to master.

The truth is, for many of us, self-control – or the lack of it – is mastering us. And it applies to far more than the food we eat. Have you ever heard the phrase the I’s have it? When it comes to our self-control it’s often the eyes that have it.

You may know in your heart what is the right thing to do. But your eyes-have-it over the heart. You see something enticing. When your eyes pick up on that delicious, beautiful, expensive, or popular something – the eyes-have-it. What you see with your eye wins out over what you know is best.

Living in an out-of-control world.

This should not come as a newsflash! We are living in a world filled with excess, expectation, and indulgence. We live in a world that not only tolerates but encourages out-of-control living. How do we counteract it?

How to have *self-control*?

How long have you been a believer? I’ve been saved since I was six – that was a while ago. The point I want to make is none of us is immune to losing self-control.

Whether saved as a child, leading a Bible study, or preaching on the platform, you can lose it…and you will. In a world that encourages out-of-control living, how do we, as Christians, have self-control {or regain it}?

#1 – Admit you cannot do it alone.

You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6.19-20

Maintaining self-control {in whatever you are facing} requires help from a higher power. Recognizing you are not the master of your own fate is the place to begin. If everything you have belongs to God – that includes Y-O-U. If you truly believe you are not your own, then stop trying to do it by yourself.

Whatever you are struggling with, never be afraid to seek help. And let it begin with going to God. He already knows your situation. Welcome Him into it and seek His face.

#2 – Allow God’s grace to empower you.

The grace of God…teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age. Titus 2.11-12

Your salvation comes by grace, through faith in Jesus. You can draw on His grace, now living in you, to empower you to exercise self-control.

Now, let me speak from personal experience. It’s been several decades since I was saved-as-a-child. Here’s what I’ve learned. When I am living life leaning into Jesus – worshiping regularly, reading the Bible, praying daily – that empowering grace revs up more easily.

When I was leaning away and trying to do it alone – His grace did not kick in so readily. Do you know what I mean? His grace is there, but I had distanced myself from the power source.

Stay close to the power source, so He can empower your self-control.

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#3 – Pursue the right things.

Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith. 1 Timothy 6.11-12

As people of faith, we know we should pursue these things – but life, right? This out-of-control world is intent on calling us to pursue everything but the right things. We must focus. And learn to recognize danger.

Can we have self-control in an out-of-control world? Here are 3 steps to help you live in self-control or regain it, if you've lost control.Do you know your danger zones?

The danger zone might be what sets you off, gets you going, or pulls you down. For some, social media, texting, and the online world is a risky danger zone.

If eating is where you lack self-control your danger zone might be the buffet restaurant across town. There are certain aisles in the grocery store that are big danger zones for me. And fast food. And French fries. Let’s move on.

What I do know is the more we pursue the right things {righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness…} the less likely we are to wake up in the danger zone.

If this post has spoken to you today, be encouraged. You can grow in self-control. It is possible and I believe you are on the road to change.

  1. Admit you cannot do it alone.
  2. Allow God’s grace to empower you.
  3. Pursue the right things.

Help is on the way.

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6 thoughts on “How to have *self-control* {in an out-of-control world}…

  1. What a beautiful writing. It truly blessed me. Beautiful reminders that God enables us. Self-control is a Fruit of the Spirit and it is so true that we need to stay in Him. Thank you so much. This writing blessed me.

  2. So glad that we can trust the only one Who is truly in control and always perfect. Resting in His grace and finished work today. Thank you for linking up with the #RaRaLinkup today! 🙂

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