Thanksgiving is NOT about me

Why do we end up making the holidays, including Thanksgiving Day, about us?

At least, this is often what we do, and I feel it is more so with each passing year.

We know our culture has taken Christmas and made it about me. {Which the culture hardly even refers to it as Christmas anymore, right?}

But how do we make Thanksgiving about us?

As we approach the holiday season, the demands on us are higher than all year. You may have travel arrangements to plan. There’s the coordinating of extended family schedules and, if you’re married, the juggling of Thanksgiving meals between your family and his.

If your children are grown, now you must share…and the scheduling is even more complicated.

If you are hosting Thanksgiving dinner, then you’re most likely organizing the menu and deciding who’ll bring what. In the midst of it all, as the holiday break inches ever closer, there are school programs to attend, work responsibilities ongoing…and don’t forget a house to clean before the relatives arrive.

Can we make the holidays NOT about ME? Thanksgiving is meant to be enjoyed. It's a time to be thankful, rest, be together. It's not about ME.Here’s where I usually start feeling Thanksgiving turning towards *me*.

It’s when I need more hours in the day to get it all done. Or, it’s as we are literally racing to the market one more time {along with everyone else in town} to pick up those forgotten items. And that me-me-me really kicks in as we try to get the spouse or kids to help pick up the slack.

While the Thanksgiving holiday should be a ‘celebration of gratitude’, it has become more about the 4-day weekend, football, food {way too much food}, and Black Friday shopping {preparing for that other holiday that’s all about me}.

The very first Thanksgiving was a coming together of the Native Americans and Pilgrims. They shared their harvest following a long, hard winter – a winter that, for the Pilgrims, included burying almost half of their family and friends who did not survive the first few months in their new homeland.

History tells us they shared a simple meal, gave thanks for what the earth had provided them, and rested from their labor.

In his book Moments With Majesty, Jack Hayford shares beautiful encouragement for the Thanksgiving season…

“Take a walk…and let your heart study the Creator’s grand workings which surround you.

Look at the leaves. Listen to the wind. Study the stars.

As you do, remember this: The Almighty One of creative power is the All-Loving One of grace. Whatever your present need, trial, or struggle might be, He is the One who governs cycles and seasons.

His hand governs the seasons of the year. His love guides the seasons of your life.“¹

Here’s what I’m taking from these blessed words. I hope you will, too.

Thanksgiving is NOT about *me*.

Thanksgiving is about the Creator’s grand workings; about the All-Loving One of grace. I never want this to turn out about me. This season, like every season of the year, belongs to God.

Let’s take time to breathe, this Thanksgiving.

If someone forgets to bring the rolls to the big meal, don’t worry. If the children get in a fuss and knock over someone’s iced tea, clean it up and pour another glass. If someone beats you to that coveted item you’re chasing down on Black Friday, laugh and say, “It wasn’t meant to be.”

Thanksgiving is NOT about *Me*. And it’s not about *You*, either.

Take time to gather in peace. Give thanks for what God’s creation has provided. Rest and just be together.

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¹Moments With Majesty, by Jack Hayford. © 1990 Multnomah Press, Portland, OR.

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